Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Positive Selfishness

These couple of days I found myself introspective about many things. One of those thoughts that I want to share today is about the question that has been hanging above my head. Why is it that we don't do the things we know are good for us? Why are we so busy taking care of others that we neglect ourselves?

Is it being selfish to care of ourselves, not running around filling others' lamps with oil, thus forgetting to fill our own lamps first? Selfish. A loaded word. Nobody wants to be thought of as selfish. But if taking care of our personal well-being is selfishness, then count me as one. Here are 5 ways I think that I can be selfish but actually serves my love ones and all those around me:

1. Service. There is a saying that goes, "you cannot give what you don't have". When I am exhausted how much good can I am to others? When I make sure that my own needs are met, I believed I am more equipped to take care of the needs of others.

2. Recharge. When I take time to do things I enjoy, I become more effective. Recharging makes me more clear-headed and effective in life. I'd like to suggest for you to read Stephen Covey's 7th Habit, Sharpen The Saw. It's a very enriching read.

3. Inspiration. I believe that being an example is a powerful thing. When we live what we preach, we inspire others to do the same. At work I always tell people that having a record of habitual tardiness will not be a good mark comes evaluation time...In 2010, I only have one 5 minute late and no absent from work.

4. Growth. When I put my own needs and responsibilities ahead of those who depend so much on me like my daughters, I also give them a priceless gift---self-reliance. The more they are independent, the more they become resilient and ultimately they grow.

5. Understanding. When I really take time and efforts to do things to enrich me as a person, I understand when others do it too. I don't get angry or annoyed when someone take steps to take care for themselves because I understand the importance of such actions..
It's easy to get caught up in the many concerns of our professional and family life, and lose sight of the fact that we're also responsible for our own happiness and well-being. As for me, I know that if I have to be a light that can brighten the room, I have to make sure my lampshade is good enough.

At least that's the challenge I put in front of me everyday...

1 comment:

Aldrin said...

Hi Amie,

Beautiful thoughts! I also enjoy looking at the photos that you posted. Keep writing and posting photos.