Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Is it being selfish to care of ourselves, not running around filling others' lamps with oil, thus forgetting to fill our own lamps first? Selfish. A loaded word. Nobody wants to be thought of as selfish. But if taking care of our personal well-being is selfishness, then count me as one. Here are 5 ways I think that I can be selfish but actually serves my love ones and all those around me:
1. Service. There is a saying that goes, "you cannot give what you don't have". When I am exhausted how much good can I am to others? When I make sure that my own needs are met, I believed I am more equipped to take care of the needs of others.
2. Recharge. When I take time to do things I enjoy, I become more effective. Recharging makes me more clear-headed and effective in life. I'd like to suggest for you to read Stephen Covey's 7th Habit, Sharpen The Saw. It's a very enriching read.
3. Inspiration. I believe that being an example is a powerful thing. When we live what we preach, we inspire others to do the same. At work I always tell people that having a record of habitual tardiness will not be a good mark comes evaluation time...In 2010, I only have one 5 minute late and no absent from work.
4. Growth. When I put my own needs and responsibilities ahead of those who depend so much on me like my daughters, I also give them a priceless gift---self-reliance. The more they are independent, the more they become resilient and ultimately they grow.
5. Understanding. When I really take time and efforts to do things to enrich me as a person, I understand when others do it too. I don't get angry or annoyed when someone take steps to take care for themselves because I understand the importance of such actions..
At least that's the challenge I put in front of me everyday...
Posted by Amie at 1:31:00 PM