Monday, February 6, 2012

Love And Heartbreak

Why is it that when we're in love with a person, we take them seriously. But later on in the relationship when we start seeing the other side of the person, the one that we don't like, then we start to have issues. The reality of loving is, the one who gives us so much happiness is also the one who will break our heart. We become vulnerable to that person.

If you think loving is all bed of roses, think again.  The the truth is, it takes a lot of hard work and equal responsibility from both couple. We invest not just time and money but most of all, our most precious and guarded emotion. It can either bring out the best in us or it can shatter our world. For some who are not strong enough, will resort to drugs, alcohol or other kinds of addiction just to forget their pain for a while. I know quite a few people whose lives turned upside down and broken into pieces when their relationship didn't work. I don't really blame them, nothing is as devastating as knowing that our beloved has hurt or betrayed us.

There are no guarantees in love and there are no established rules on how to keep it safe from pain and heartbreak. It is because every person is different. Each one comes from a background different from the other. There will always be struggles and challenges to overcome if we want to have a a strong and lasting relationship. I find it hard to believe when I hear stories of couples parting ways after decades of being together. Experience thought me that people change. And sometimes part of that change is the way they feel towards us. Sad as it is, but that is a reality we need to be prepared for.

The lesson I learned from my past is to take one day at a time. We should cherish each moment that we are together for we don't know what the future holds. We may not be with that person tomorrow. Show more understanding instead of focusing on the flaws and weaknesses. Give more and expect less. Always remember what made you fall in love with that person in the first place. I may sound like a naive, "martyr", or even crazy, hopeless romantic, heart over head woman in love. But I would like to think that if I have given all the love I have, done my part to keep the relationship and still it didn't work, maybe it was not meant to be in the first place. At least I know I've done my best. I will be grateful that I have loved and I was loved. I will have memories to cherish for the rest of my life. Life is too short to spend it being sad and miserable. I am responsible for my happiness and no one could make me feel better but myself.

Life is good, so I should live it to the fullest. Time is precious to be wasted feeling sorry for events in our lives that we do not have control with. The sun is  even glorious at sunset. Just keep moving. As the lines of Desiderata goes: And whatever your labor and aspirations in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its shams, drudgery and broken dreams; it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful!

Strive to be happy....